Just for Teens

Welcome

The St. Clair County Child Abuse/Neglect Council provides a variety of programs to students in our county to help them become aware of what sexual violence is and how to handle it. You may remember Bubbylonian Encounter from elementary school, Just the Facts in middle school or More Facts About Personal Boundaries for high school.

Dating Violence

1 in 5 teens that have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner.

1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, slapped or pushed by a partner.

Dating violence can take many forms, including psychological abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse.

Sexual Violence is wrong and it is illegal!!!

 

 

Signs of a healthy relationship:

Your boyfriend or girlfriend

  • respects you and your individuality.
  • is open and honest (and you can be too).
  • supports you and your choices even when they disagree with you.
  • shares equal say and respects your boundaries (and you respect theirs).
  • understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family.
  • allows you to freely communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences.
  • feels safe being open and honest (and you do too).
                      

                    

 

Take a look at this cool equality and respect wheel.

 

 

      

Signs of a problem:

Your boyfriend or girlfriend

  • pressures you to become serious or to have sex.
  • is extremely jealous or possessive.
  • tries to control you and forcefully make all the decisions.
  • verbally and emotionally degrades you by yelling, manipulating, and/or making you feel guilty.
  • uses alcohol or drugs excessively and refuses to take responsibility for their own behavior.
  • threatens physical violence.
  • has a history of abusive relationships.

 

If you recognize any of the above signs in your current relationship, trust your feelings and seek help.

Click here to see more negative behaviors on the 'Power and Control Wheel'

 

Your boyfriend or girlfriend does not have the right to tell you what you can or should do,

wear, or the kind of friends you should make.

 

 

Dating Guidelines/Prevention

 

Always remember you have the right to say NO.

 

If you are in a violent or potentially violent relationship, seek help. Tell an adult you trust such as a teacher, parent, or guidance counselor. Our local domestic violence shelter can also provide assistance.

Blue Water Safe Horizons Crisis Line (810) 985-5538

 

 

Friends may also be in an a abusive relationship, some signs could be:

  • Change their style of clothing or makeup.
  • Lose their confidence or have difficulty with decision making.
  • Stop spending time with you and other friends.

  • Poor school performance, failing grades and decrease participation in school activities.
  • Increased drug or alcohol use.

 

 

 

 

What Should I Do?

  • If you or someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship, seek help.
  • Talk to an adult immediately about your concerns - it is not wise to carry the burden by yourself.
  • If you feel safe, perhaps speaking with the person about seeking help for their abusive behavior. Refer them to the local domestic violence shelter.
  • If you are hurting someone else, have the courage to get help!!
  • Remember, physical and sexual violence is illegal and can land you in jail.

 

 

Work to educate other teenagers about dating violence.